Respect

No matter who we are or where we stand in the crowd, we want to be respected. The fact is, each and every one of us is a deserving individual, even the least powerful people. Sound easy and simple, yes?Like it or not, we are respectable only as we respect. And by that I mean, you've got to earn your respect by doing the same to the people around you.

Respect doesnt mean you have to kiss the ground they walk on, adore each and every single thing they do, or to agree to their every single words. It simply means knowing when and how to use the right manner when talking to people, knowing your boundaries, learning to listen without interrupting, agreeing to disagree, trying to understand other people's opinion, having a direct communication, taking other people's feeling's into consideration, not pressuring the other person, accepting each other differenes, building a person up instead of tearing them down and last but not the least important is our intention.

Our intent will always be evident in the results. Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. We are indeed are experiencing the intent behind the words. We should mean what we say. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. I believe we have met or know some people who are very likely to say all the nicest things in the world to other people but they never meant it and it is pretty obvious from the look in their eyes. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates and aggravates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. We ought to examine the reasons behind our true intent, we owe it to ourselve and everyone around us.

Respect can be shown through behaviour and it can also be felt. We can sense when we are truly being respected or not. This holds true for those with money and power as well. More often than not, it seems quite apparent that they are trying to gain a type of respect they never have truly felt.

The misconception of respect is that with money, comes RESPECT. IMHO, with MONEY comes POWER. With power comes the ability to make people obey to our orders and instructions. Perhaps thare are some misunderstandings between respect, obedience and fear. Respect is nurturing and earned, fear is forced and learned. To be confused between these two creates serious problems for the society, people in relationships, sports, politics , workplace and the list go on.

If only we spend a little more time with ourselves to reflect on how and what we do to respect others, perhaps the world will be a better and brighter place.Perhaps couple will not argue over silly things and begin to accept each other flaws and differences, perhaps athletes will not fight with each other, perhaps competitors will work together hand in hand and maybe even there will be less war if certain countries know their boundaries.As the saying goes, “Treat others as you want them to treat you because what goes around comes around”. (Was there such saying or did I just made it up? not that important, yes?)

“The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity.” Benjamin Franklin

“I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.”

Because Its Easier

More often than not, we tend to judge solely based on what meets the eye, oblivious to what lies beneath. Once aggravated, we eagerly acuse the one that fit our homemade puzzle, the puzzle which still befuddled the accused. Its funny though, how sometimes a very general statement can make one all shooked up, a feeling only the blameworthy would feel.

Our own abysmal stupidity is the one that has been contributing to our own prolonged misery. When the need arises, we point to the one we think has the animus intention simply because it helps us sleep better at night thinking we have solved the mystery. Perhaps it easier to blame it on someone rather than admitting to our flaws.Perhaps...

To be caught in a prolonged battle, and it is not even yours to fight is such a waste of effort what more time. Win or lose to which ever parties, it will still be an inglorious one , to be dragged this long. But our ego says, it is easier to fight than make peace.Logically speaking, why would the brouhaha flared up after few months of the commotion? If ever someone was a snitch, wouldn't an aggresion have arise sooner? But our profound way of thinking says, everyone is against us hence no one is trustworthy, therefore we make baseless accusation, without even confronting the accused.

A towering grudge will do nothing good to any of us. Yet, despite being an adult, we still want to win no matter what. Even if it kills the passion and change the reason you do the things you love to do.We opted for the easier way, we dwell and refuse to move on.

Perhaps an unequivocal position was finally accomplished, in which the sincerety is only known to the accuser.
Perhaps too, this drama will continue, maybe it will come to an end, but an insignificant cast who was very fortunate to be given her 15 minutes of fame would like to retire from all these nonsensical joke and take her own aversion, simply because it is easier.

Would it kill for both parties to just confront each other and resolve what needs to be solved??? All these drama is begining to take its toll on those who wish just to do their own thing.

ps:I have always liked confrontation.